After the release of Mr. Lambo’s rendition of our second date with my charming Editor’s Notes, Mr. Lambo gave me what I perceived as the silent treatment. Initially, I figured he was toning down the amount of contact because I had expressed that the excessive communication was making me feel smothered. I sent him a facebook message inviting him to incorporate his own “editor’s notes” into my write up of our second date. He did not respond for hours. Such an extended time between responses was atypical for him. About five hours later, I texted, “Are you mad at me?” Again, no response. Out of concern that something may have happened to him and desire for finality, I placed a call from a blocked number. He answered. I said, “Yo.” He hung up. I texted him, “Evidently that is a yes. Well, I wish you the best. Hope your mom is doing better.” (His mom was not well the prior day.)
About an hour and half later (after I had fallen asleep), he texted, “Why would I be mad at you? I was out at home depot with my mom then came home and watched a stupid movie and fell asleep. You didn’t call on your way home from work so I assumed you weren’t in the mood to talk to me. My fb account has been hacked and I can’t get on it so that’s why I didn’t send you any messages on there. Anyway, I just took the dog out and I’m going back to bed. Call me in the morning if you want :) Miss you MoMo.” He called me twice the following morning and texted, “Are you done talking to me?” He also facebook messaged me, “Can you please call me. I’m not sure what happened between us but there is definitely a lack of communication somewhere.” We ended up conversing and determining that I had jumped the gun in assuming he had written me off.
He explained that when I called from the blocked number, he didn’t hear a voice on the other end of the line. I asked why he hadn’t seen or responded to my text given that his device was clearly in his hand. He responded that the notification didn’t show up until he restarted his iPhone later. It was clear that he wasn’t thrilled with my dismissiveness and willingness to just scrap things. I expressed that, from my point of view, there had been a drastic change in his previously established communication pattern and that I attempted to verify my suspicions that he was ignoring me by placing the call from the restricted number. (Dating Advice: Changes in communication patterns are red flags.) Anyway, this all sounds very petty. We resolved the issue and moved forward. It was actually good because he began contacting me less, which allowed me to miss him and want to talk to him more. (Dating Advice: Sometimes less is more in terms of the amount of contact between specimens.)
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Click here for the initial online dating site exchange with Mr. Lambo.
Click here for Part I of Mr. Lambo’s rendition of the facts of the first date.
Click here for Part II of Mr. Lambo’s rendition of the facts of the first date.
Click here for Part III of Mr. Lambo’s rendition of the facts of the first date.
Click here for Part I of Princess MoMo’s rendition of the facts of the first date.
Click here for Part II of Princess MoMo’s rendition of the facts of the first date.
Click here for Mr. Lambo’s rendition of the facts of the second date.
Click here for Princess MoMo’s rendition of the facts of the second date.